Two Don’ts and a Do When on Social Media

It is really rare for me to get on a soap box.  However, the negative things I have seen on social media these days have me appalled and fired up!  So, I am pouring my heart out today with Shell over at Things I Can’t say with my two Don’t s and a Do when on social media.  I really think if we all didn’t do these two and did the one, the world would be a happier place!

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DON’T

Talk about something that happened with a “mystical” unnamed person who, when they read your post, will know you’re talking about them. If you have something to say to an individual, go to that individual. Are we still in fifth grade? Talk to the “mystical being” in person or at least via telephone. I wouldn’t even recommend sending an email. You CANNOT hear a person’s heart and really understand their motives through typed words. By passively putting the incident on blast via social media, you spark the curiosity of others and get them all up in some kool-aid that is not even their flavor!

“If a fellow believer hurts you, go and tell him—work it out between the two of you.” Matthew 18:15 (The Message)

DON’T

Post about current events when you are angry or respond to someone else’s wacky post when you are angry. Get up from your computer or turn off your phone when you feel yourself getting reactionary or sarcastic. Do NOT post the first thing that pops into your mind. As adults we should be able to discuss difficult issues peacefully–IN PERSON! A lot of people hide behind their computers and post things they would never say face to face. Ain’t nobody got time for that!

Sensible people control their temper; they earn respect by overlooking wrongs. Proverbs 19:11 (NLT)

Stop being bitter and angry and mad at others. Don’t yell at one another or curse each other or ever be rude. 32 Instead, be kind and merciful, and forgive others, just as God forgave you because of Christ. Ephesians 5:31-32 (CEV)

And Finally

DO:

3. Use social media for good by connecting with family and friends, encouraging others, and sharing the love of Jesus.

But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called “Today,” so that none of you may be hardened by sin’s deceitfulness. Hebrews 3:13 (NIV)

Of course you have every right to disagree with me.  Please know, I DO NOT have it all together but I AM striving to be better.

Good-bye Holiday Princess Hello Back-to-Work-Barbie

As soon as I walked out of the door from work on Wednesday, I transformed into a Holiday Princess! I practically frolicked to my car skipping across an imaginary cobblestone walkway. I heard birds chirping as I started the car and let the sunroof back. Ah…..four days of only doing what the Princess (me) wanted to do! Moonbeams and rainbows all the way baby!

Fast forward to the end of those four days and my princess tiara is beginning to hurt my head as I think about going back to work tomorrow. I don’t know about ya’ll but this princess sure gets down in the dumps when it is time to go back to “business as usual” after a long holiday weekend. Being away from the regular routine, sleeping in late, eating lots of delicious foods, and quality time with the family just spoil me. I often find myself daydreaming of a life where I am Holiday Princess EVERYDAY! (The birds are chirping again!!!)Ok, so back to the “real world”. Since being Holiday Princess everyday is not an option, I guess I will go with the next best thing…”Back-to-work Barbie”. Whether you are a Barbie fan or not…you know Barbie seems to always be on top of her game….organized AND looking fly.

Back to work Barbie

So Divas, let’s get our Barbie on and actually enjoy getting back into a regular routine without dreading the week ahead with these few tips:

1. Prepare yourself mentally. I went to a presentation during a work retreat and the speaker said that our minds are like faithful dogs—they do what we tell them. So, the speaker would say, tell yourself that you are going to enjoy the rest of your day AND that you are looking forward to tomorrow. (I know it sounds kinda cheesy but without directions, my mind goes all over the place.)

2. Go to bed early. Uggh! I so need to go to bed earlier. It is totally unrealistic to expect yourself to pop up after a late night feeling rested and ready for the day ahead. Not to mention that going to bed late helps me play the hit the snooze button game and then I AM RUNNING LATE. (Yeah, being late is just a wonderful way go get the week started!)

3. At least glance at your calendar. Who says “I just love being totally un-prepared for upcoming projects and meetings”?….No ONE EVER! Take just a few minutes to familiarize yourself with what you have scheduled for the week ahead. You will be happy you did later.

4. Plan 1 fun activity this week! Lunch with a friend, family movie night, dinner out, or whatever activity that brings you joy, will give you something to look forward to and balance out some of the dread for the week ahead.

Proverbs 21:5 (The Message)
Careful planning puts you ahead in the long run; hurry and scurry puts you further behind.

What do you do to fight the go-back-to-work-after-a-holiday-blues?

Five Minute Friday-FALL

Every Friday, Lisa Jo Baker hosts a blog link up called Five Minute Fridays. She provides a word prompt and then participants are to set their timers for five minutes and write until the timer goes off. The word for today is FALL. Happy Friday Divas and here goes:

young pharmacist Katina

I graduated from Pharmacy School at the tender age of 23 and took my first job as a retail pharmacist at Revco.  I marched in with high ideals about being part of the healthcare team, leading diabetes days and lobbying for a “private counseling room”.  After about four months of practicing, I decided that instead of more pharmacology classes in pharmacy school, I needed more psychology classes. 

Everybody was, in my opinion, CRAZY!  Patients were only interested in getting what they needed quickly and upper management did not equip the store with the staffing necessary to meet the patients’ needs…..SAFELY. 

Although I was “grown” for all intents and purposes, I was still not very comfortable in my own shoes.  Life back then was like walking on a balancing beam.  Arms swinging, toes grasping for the beam ….I did not want to FALL.

If I could go back and say something to the young woman in this picture I would say: 

Oh you sweet and beautiful girl.  You are amazing and God loves you so much.  Stop worrying about FALLing.  You will fall  alot….and it will hurt.  Most of the time, there will  only small scrapes and bruises but a couple of times you will get up with bloody knees and elbows.  But, you will survive.  Girl, God has your back and He will take care of you.  You will finally stop your crazy balancing act and surrender it all to God but you will get so tired in the process.

The profession of pharmacy is not ready for your creative spirit now but things will change eventually. Continue to serve others and everything will FALL into place.

Oh, and that thing you have ALWAYS loved to do….DANCE–keep your skills up.  When you are knocking on the door of turning 40, you will FALL in love with the Lord more than ever before by leading women to dance through life with JOY! (Dance Fit Divas)

 

Back to Work after a Holiday Weekend Blues

I actually had to work today so this re-post is for all of you lucky ducks with a long Holiday Weekend!!! 
 
sad faceI don’t know about ya’ll but a sista sure gets down in the dumps when it is time to go back to “business as usual” after a long holiday weekend. Being away from the regular routine, sleeping in late, eating lots of delicious foods, and fellowship with friends really spoils me. I often find myself daydreaming of a life where I don’t work, or do housework, money is plentiful and every weekend is like a holiday weekend. (There is music playing here!)

Ok, so back to the “real world”. I am quite sure that I am not alone. I had a conversation with a girl at work and she said that after she took 2 weeks off last year for a summer vacation, she was flat-out depressed and was totally unprepared to come back to work (reality). There is a real condition called “Sunday Blues”. Wikipedia defines the Sunday Blues as “a condition characterized by anxiety about the week ahead and a sense of helplessness and depression that most often occurs on Sunday afternoons and evenings”.

So Divas, how do we enjoy getting back into a regular routine without dreading the week ahead? I found a couple of tips below, feel free to hit a Diva back with some of your own tips:

1. Get organized EARLY–in the earlier part of the day, take a few minutes to pick out clothes for the week, pack lunches and go through email. By doing it in the early part of the day, you will feel more relaxed in the afternoon/late evening.

2. Prepare yourself mentally. I went to a presentation during a work retreat and the speaker said that our minds are like faithful dogs—they do what we tell them. So, the speaker would say, tell yourself that you are going to enjoy the rest of your day AND that you are looking forward to tomorrow. (I know it sounds kinda cheesy but without directions, my mind goes all over the place.)

3. Go to bed early. Uggh! I so need to go to bed earlier. It is totally unrealistic to expect yourself to pop up after a late night feeling rested and ready for the day ahead. Not to mention that going to bed late helps me play the hit the snooze button game and then I AM RUNNING LATE. (Yeah, being late is just a wonderful way go get the week started!)

4.Write down what you need to get done the next day. I just love going into my office after a holiday or a weekend and totally not having a clue what I should be doing for the day. It is even better when I forget something that the girls need for school and have to double back. Pull out your calendar at least GLANCE at what you have coming up for the rest of the week:)

5. Plan 1 fun activity this week! Lunch with a friend, family movie night, dinner out, or whatever activity that brings you joy, will give you something to look forward to and balance out some of the dread for the week ahead.

Proverbs 21:5 (The Message)
Careful planning puts you ahead in the long run; hurry and scurry puts you further behind.

Happy Memorial Day! Thank you to all of our service men and women for giving their lives for our freedom!

What do you do to fight the go-back-to-work-after-a-holiday-blues?

 

The Get-out-of-that-funk two step

imageHave you ever had a period of time when you just don’t have your mojo?  Things that normally take you no time to finish seem to take an eternity? If you are totally honest, you really don’t have the energy to do the things you need to do.  Mama is irritable.  It is kind of like a toddler who has gotten over tired…..sleep would REALLY help them but they are too tired to wind themselves down so they throw a fit?

I am not sure if any of this sounds familiar to any of you, but it pretty much sums me up for the last couple of months. I have been in a funk.

Oh and add some guilt in there because my inner mean girl keeps reminding me–in the grand scheme of things….my “funk” is nothing in comparison to the hurt people are feeling in different parts of our country and across the globe. Well now, just knowing that I feel funky but that I am totally over-reacting really helps me feel better right? Uh, no.

So what is a Diva to do? Well, I learned the two things from my fitness class ladies that have really helped me begin to feel better. I call my lesson the get-out-of-that-funk-two-step.

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Step 1–Gratitude
I know it sounds cliche-ish but you really can’t stay in a funk when you thank God for all of things that are going right. No matter how funky you feel, there is always SOMETHING you can be thankful for. I can’t tell you how many times one of the ladies in my class thank me for being their instructor. No, THANK YOU ladies for being some of the most amazing women to dance through life with. Thank God for bringing us together…it has all been HIS design.

Step 2 Don’t cry about it……Dance about it
Every week, the ladies in my classes come in with their own set of problems yet they hoot, holler, punch, salsa, merengue, and kick in spite of it all. They challenge each other during class then they put prayer requests in our prayer box.

One of my favorite biblical characters is David. I think I like him so much because of his passion. In 1 Samuel 30:6 David is in a funk and he two-stepped his way right out of it: David was greatly distressed…..But David encouraged and strengthened himself in the Lord his God. (AMP)

How do you de-funkify?
This post is part of a weekly meme hosted by Shell over at Things I Can’t Say

Five Minute Friday-Remember

imageEvery Friday, Lisa Jo Baker hosts a blog link up called Five Minute Fridays. She provides a word prompt and then participants are to set their timers for five minutes and write until the timer goes off. The word for today is REMEMBER. Happy Friday Divas and here goes:

Remember the LORD your God. He is the one who gives you power to be successful… (Deuteronomy 8:18 NLT)

I started a new job this week. To say that I am on information overload would be an understatement. I worked in my previous position for almost six years. I did not REMEMBER how mentally draining orientation and training can be. I feel like a duck….I am smiling, looking confident, and nodding my head LIKE I understand above water ( what people could see), but I am nervously paddling with all I have underwater (on the inside).

With so much information to take in and process, I am not sure I have REMEMBERed anything! Thankfully, I have been taking a lot of notes. I have asked The Lord several times….”Are you sure you picked the right woman for the job?”

When I have a brief moment and my mind reflects about my old job, I REMEMBER how self-assured I felt. On the new job, I have had to REMEMBER to place unshakable assurance in GOD instead of my limited talents or skills.

Monday Motivation

imagePsalm 31:14-15 But I trust in you O Lord. I say You are my God. My times are in your hands;

I am leading a bible study with my fitness class based on the book “Let It Go” by Karen Ehman. One of the chapters for this week’s homework is entitled “When Your Schedule Screams”. I think she wrote that one just for me.

On page 143 of the book Karen wrote the following words: “Often we try to over control our kids, our schedules and our surrounding because we feel pressed for time. With no margins built-in or wiggle room for when plans do go awry, combativeness and a critical spirit can fester inside of us, spilling out at even the slightest bump, threatening to soak and stain everyone in its path.

OUCH! I can be the Queen of combativeness and critical spirit when I am rushing.

 Do you react to things differently when you are pressed for time versus when you have time to spare?

Well, it is Monday…again. Yes, Monday, the dawn of a new week and the opportunity to begin our week with a different perspective.

Where can you allow some wiggle room and margin in your schedule this week?

Dear God,
Thank you for another Monday. I praise you in advance because this week is going to be fantastic! Please help me add margin into my schedule so that I can keep combativeness and a critical spirit at bay. I trust You Lord. You are my God. My times are truly in Your hands.

Dreams Deferred-Pour Your Heart Out

For the last couple of weeks, I have been using breakfast as a time of quick devotion and “girl-talk time” for me and my daughters.  This morning, I read them the poem A Dream Deferred by Langston Hughes.

What happens to a dream deferred?
Does it dry up
like a raisin in the sun?
Or fester like a sore–
And then run?
Does it stink like rotten meat?
Or crust and sugar over–
like a syrupy sweet?
Maybe it just sags
like a heavy load.
Or does it explode?

I asked my third grader if she knew what deferred meant.  She paused for a second and then said, “expired”? (In reference to the line about rotted meat.) “Perhaps”.  I responded.  Then I asked them what was necessary for a raisin to dry up in the sun, for meat to rot or for something to crust over.  “TIME!”  they both chimed!

Yes, time is key ingredient to a dream deferred.  When our dreams are deferred, they don’t happen on our time line.  Dreams, hopes, aspirations not occurring when we expect them to are bitter pills to swallow.  Especially since most things in our modern day lives (emails, texts, faxes, online purchases, digital images), happen instantly.

Proverbs 13:12 states:  Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a longing fulfilled is a tree of life.

One of the things I have been “queen” at in the past is taking things into my own hands to try to MAKE them happen.  Things in my own hands usually leads to regret because my focus is on the dream instead of the dream giver.

So what DOES happen to a dream deferred?  Does it sag like a heavy load or does it explode? 

Some dreams will explode and just like Proverbs 13:12 states, we will feel fulfilled.  Others may never come to fruition and we may be heartbroken about them. The point is to not focus on the dream and all of its details but to focus on the ONE who gives us the power to dream.

Focusing on HIM means thanking HIM for our many blessings and then trusting HIM to navigate us towards our best.

Where do you need to shift your focus and begin an attitude of gratitude and trust?

This post is part of a weekly meme hosted by Shell at Things I Can’t Say.

 

Keep Showing Up-Pour Your Heart Out

I attended a conference for aspiring Christian women speakers and writers this past weekend. To say that I felt a great multitude of ways in just a few short days would be a HUGE understatement.  As I said in my post on the last night of the conference:  I dreamed, cried, pouted, wilted and lifted desperate “Lord help me prayers”.  I even texted my husband “I suck”.

I awakened on the last day much calmer than I had been the night before.  Psalm 30:5 is true, joy does come in the morning.  Although I had gotten off the emotional roller coaster, I still had my three minute video session to complete. (All of the women at the conference on the “speaker’s track” were supposed to shoot a 3 minute video that could be used on a website, for other marketing materials or simply just to assess your speaking skills.)

 I decided that I was not going to show up for my pre-arranged video session and several other ladies decided the same thing.  I am not sure of all of their reasons but my reason was simple, I did not have it all together.  What I thought was “together” before the conference was then ordinary AT BEST (in my opinion).  

Walgreens may be at the corner of healthy and happy but just giving up resides at “I am not good enough avenue”.

With quivering knees, I re-wrote my entire 3 mintue talk.  I practiced it.  I prayed, got focused and……I showed up. 

Divas I JUST showed up.

 Although my heart rate was RACING, my voice didn’t quiver.  God placed the most encouraging Godly woman (LuAnn Prater) in my video room who smiled at me and prayed for me the entire time. 

I showed up for my video session and God showed OUT!’

Was it perfect?  Probably not but, perfection was NOT the goal.

So what’s next?  I have not idea but I DO know I am gonna keep showing up.

Where do you need to keep showing up in your life? 

 “About 90% of life is about showing up, whether or not you feel inspired, prepared, brave, energized or motivated. Just show up and see what happens. Do your part and God will do His part. Your part: Just show up.” –Randy Siever

This post is part of a weekly meme hosted by Shell @ Things I Can’t Say.

Dreams Today

I left home with joyful anticipation of all that I would learn and achieve. As I sit on the eve of the last day of the conference,  I am an emotional mess.  Even though I vowed that the process is the point and that instead of comparisons I would have celebrations, I feel like what I have to say is soooooo ordinary.  I feeeeeeel ordinary and a little unnecessary in the world of speaking and writing.

Have you ever been passionate about something or felt called to do something? If you have a passion, you know the shear joy of just thinking about your dreams.  If you have a passion, you also know the gut wrenching pain of someone totally NOT understanding your dream. You have felt the hot tears of frustration when it looks like obtaining your goals is impossible.

In a letter to the church at Ephesus Paul prayed this prayer for the congregation:

I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious father may give you a spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know Him better.  I pray that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which He has called you… (Ephesians 1:17-18)

In just a few short days, I have dreamed, cried, pouted, wilted and lifted desperate “Lord help me prayers”.  I even texted my husband “I suck”.

At this point, throwing in the towel seems like the most logical solution. Is it just me or does throwing in the towel ALwAYS seem like the best option when things look bleak? What if Dr. King had thrown in the towel?

I am NOT throwing in the towel so I am praying Paul’s prayer tonight for myself but also for women everywhere who have a dream in their hearts.  Lord, may you give us the spirit of wisdom and of revelation so that we might know You better. Please allow the eyes of our hearts to become enlightened to the hope for which you called us.

We have dreams today.